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The Essentials of Hosting: A Global Guide with Personal Insights

Updated: Aug 21, 2023

Mistressing the Art of Hosting: A Family Affair Series - Part 1


Welcome to the first post in our three-part series: "Mistressing the Art of Hosting: A Family Affair." This series delves into the intricacies of home hosting, uncovering the universal principles that make every gathering special. Through personal insights, feminist reflections, cultural perspectives, and practical tips, we will explore the heartwarming journey of bringing people together under one roof.

In this initial instalment, we embark on a journey to discover the essentials of hosting. From quality tableware to cultural influences, we will uncover the building blocks that create an atmosphere of warmth, connection, celebration, and inclusivity.

So, whether you are an experienced hostess, a seasoned host, or a newcomer to the world of hospitality, join us as we delve into the heart of home hosting. Let us explore together the art of hosting, or shall we say, mistressing, and learn what it takes to create gatherings that resonate with everyone present.

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The Universal Art of Home Hosting

It all started with the children's birthdays. My husband and I, both homebodies, decided to hold the birthdays at home, inviting our nieces and nephews. Many of them would be accompanied by their parents. I remember my children once pointing out that their birthdays seemed more adult than child-oriented! Easter, Christmas, Christening, the occasional New Year's party—these were all occasions to welcome people into our home. I would also extend invitations when hosting my consultancy team members or friends and family visiting from abroad.

Hosting is indeed an art form, and in our home, it is a family affair. Unlike many who might rely on outside catering, I prefer to buy all the ingredients myself and cook. If the guests exceed 30, I might occasionally hire a chef to support me. Often, family members, including my children, contribute to the preparations. There is something personal and heartfelt about preparing the meal and setting the stage for a gathering.

This sentiment is not unique to us; it resonates across various cultures and backgrounds. In Italian households, for instance, family gatherings often revolve around food, with great pride taken in home-cooked meals (Read More). In many African cultures, communal eating symbolises unity and sharing (Read More). In Japanese culture, hospitality, or "omotenashi," reflects a deep sense of respect and gratitude towards guests, often evident in meticulous attention to detail (Read More).

The art of home hosting bridges gaps, fosters connections, and allows us to embrace our shared humanity, all while celebrating our unique traditions and cultures. Whether it is a child's birthday or a festive gathering, the joy of coming together over a meal transcends geographical boundaries and cultural differences. It is a universal language that speaks to the heart.

Crafting an Unforgettable Experience: Essentials of Hosting

Laying the Groundwork: From Tableware to Entertainment

  1. A Happy "Hostess": As an unapologetic feminist, I take issue with references enclosed in brackets, such as host(ess). This is a topic for another post where we delve into the nuances of inclusive language.

  2. Quality Tableware:Equip your table with pleasing plates, glasses, and cutlery. The right tableware sets the foundation for successful hosting. It is not just about functionality; aesthetic appeal plays a crucial role too.

  3. Delicious Cuisine:Food is the heart of any event. Always on my menu are fresh fruit juice cocktails, tropical fruit salad, and a delightful vegetable medley. The menu should cater to diverse tastes, enriching the overall experience.

  4. Entertainment: Tailoring entertainment to your guests' preferences ensures a memorable time. From music to engaging activities, these elements create an atmosphere of joy. It can be live music, games, or anything that aligns with the theme.

  5. Adaptable Spaces: Whether indoors or outdoors, versatile spaces that accommodate mingling, seating, and dancing enhance the dynamic vibe of your event. Think about the flow and how people will move around; flexibility is key.

The Fine Touch: Is Perfection Impossible?

  1. Cash: Ensuring sufficient funds for expenses is vital. While hospitality is about warmth, having the means to provide a comfortable experience is equally important.

  2. nvitations and Communication: Well-designed invitations and clear communication make guests feel welcomed

  3. Warm Welcome: A genuine smile and warm greeting set the tone. Everyone should feel valued.

  4. Attention to Detail:Elegant touches like beautiful napkins, charger plates, and petals show care for your guests.

  5. Thoughtful Table Setting: Quality plates, glasses, and cutlery foster shared dining experiences. I prefer reusable dishes but keep disposables as spares.

  6. Lighting: Especially if the function is outdoors and likely to run into the night, proper lighting enhances the ambiance and safety.

Ensuring Convenience and Sustainability

  1. Children's Considerations: Child-friendly options like toys and bouncing castles bring joy. Create spaces that resonate with children's joy and curiosity, fostering an environment where they can explore, play, and create lasting memories.

  2. Cooking Appliances: A well-equipped kitchen with multiple stoves, grills, ovens, both electricity, and gas is essential. It allows for diverse dishes and ensures readiness in case of power outages.

  3. Chafing Dishes: These keep food warm and presentable, ensuring enjoyment.

  4. Trays and Décor: Trays for self-service and elegant decor like table linen and flowers create a pleasant ambiance.

  5. Accessibility: Ensuring the venue is accessible to all guarantees enjoyment without hindrance.

  6. Sustainability: Being mindful of waste by using reusable dishes aligns with my values of sustainable hosting. It is not just about convenience, it is about being responsible and ethical in our choices.

Catering to Variety: From Tastes to Accessibility

  1. Beverage Selection:I always ask in advance, ensuring every guest's taste is catered to making the event more personalized and enjoyable.

  2. Children's Needs: Child-friendly options like toys and bouncing castles bring joy. Create spaces that resonate with children's laughter.

  3. Dietary Considerations: Crafting menus with dietary preferences ensures satisfaction. This includes catering to requests like no salt, no oil, or no sugar.

Safety and Security

  1. Emergency Preparations: A few months ago, during a function I was hosting, a child was hurt. It reminded me of the importance of having a first-aid kit and knowing the location of fire extinguishers.

  2. Security Preparations: Considering security, even in secure neighbourhoods, safeguards your guests and their belongings. A guest once lost car lights, reinforcing the need for vigilance.

Concluding Reflections

Hosting an event, particularly in one's own home, is an art that extends far beyond the logistical details. It is about creating a warm and inviting space where laughter is shared, and memories are crafted. It transcends the physical act of welcoming guests; it is an opportunity to foster connection and shared experiences across cultures and backgrounds. From the thoughtful selection of quality tableware to the joyous infusion of entertainment, each element contributes to an environment where conversation and meaningful interactions flourish.

The journey of hosting has taught me that every detail matters, reflecting the care and commitment invested in the event. It is a joy to cater to diverse tastes, anticipating needs, and ensuring that the cuisine and beverages align with everyone's preferences. This art of hosting is a universal language that speaks to the heart, enriching connections with others.

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About the Author

Nite Tanzarn is an acclaimed Independent International Consultant with extensive contributions to gender equality and social inclusion within sectors such as transport, infrastructure, agriculture, and rural development in African nations. Her expertise has shaped transformative programmes, championing women's rights and fostering inclusive development. She is also the voice behind Mama's Reflective Musings, a blog that offers thoughtful insights and reflections on women's experiences. With a passion for hosting, Nite brings her unique perspective to the art of creating welcoming spaces.

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Oct 27, 2023

I think that I am not disciplined enough to host or maybe I am plain lazy.


Oct 18, 2023

This is useful information

Nite Tanzarn
Nite Tanzarn
Oct 18, 2023
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I am glad you found the information useful. The art of hosting truly transcends borders and cultures, and it's rewarding to know that the guide resonated with you. May it enhance your hosting experiences.



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Mireille Kwizera
Mireille Kwizera
Sep 01, 2023

You’re definitely a happy hostess

Nite Tanzarn
Nite Tanzarn
Sep 01, 2023
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Hi Mireille,

Thank you for your delightful comment, "You're definitely a happy hostess," on my post about the essentials of hosting. It's wonderful to hear that the joy I find in bringing people together comes across in my writing. I believe that happiness in hosting often translates into a welcoming and enjoyable experience for guests, and I'm glad you picked up on that.

Your comment adds a warm touch to the conversation, and I appreciate your engagement with the blog.



Author, Mama's Reflective Musings


Luc Muhizi
Luc Muhizi
Aug 15, 2023

Love this post

Nite Tanzarn
Nite Tanzarn
Aug 15, 2023
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Dear Luc,

Thank you for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear that you enjoyed the post on the essentials of hosting. It's a subject close to my heart, and I believe that the art of hosting has the power to create memorable experiences and lasting connections.

I hope the insights and personal anecdotes shared in the post resonate with your own experiences or inspire you in your future hosting endeavours.

Your encouragement means a lot, and I hope you continue to find value and enjoyment in my future writings.


Nite Tanzarn

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